Admitting you are wrong
Being a nice family
Being dependable
Being happy
Being independent
Being stressed
Dealing with problems
Enjoy the moment
Feeling music (10-31-17)
Genetically determined
Get rid of insecurity
Goal in life
How we develop
Influence from your parents
Influences on children
Learning new things
"Nobody cares about me"
Raise children
Relation, who fits to who
Sixth sense
Sleeping problems
Stop hurting females
Stay young
Stronger children
What is respect
What is self esteem
What is your tension level
Why do children say why
Women need to talk
Young people
Why this parenting course?
Criticizing children
Ignoring children
Do not order children
Talking to children
Take children seriously
Do not judge too soon
High level punishment
Who is in charge
If your child has made a mistake, or you see something is wrong, first give your child the chance to explain. Even if it is very obvious.
There could be something you didn't know. You don't know what happened if you did not see it happening. It is very painful for being reprimanded and not being guilty. This hurts a lot. An adult will stand up for him or herself, but children can be afraid of this or do not get the chance.
It could be done by accident. Or maybe someone else did it. Do not punish your child, because your neighbor complained about your kid. Ask your child for an explanation first. And before getting mad at him or her.
An example to clear this out. I hope you can feel the wrongness. I hope it gives you a bad feeling. Because that means you have a sense for right and wrong. Here we go.
Dad came into the kitchen. Noticed his little daughter was cleaning up a overturned glass of milk on the kitchen table. He reprimanded her for the mess she has made. Later on, he discovered the baby had overturned the milk. She was only cleaning it. This is great injustice. And this hurts.
Not only didn't she do it, she showed her best side and cleaned it up. Put yourself in her shoes. If dad would have asked in a friendly way what has happened, she wouldn't have been hurt and probably complimented.
Not only do you hurt someone by accusing someone false, but you also increase the change a child is not going to show his or her best side when something similar happens. Would you?
So do not judge too soon.